How to see your SHADOW self

Part 1: PROSE

When you allow yourself to FEEL uncomfortable, and learn to stay CALM, OPEN and fully AWARE in your discomfort.

You ACCEPT it. You RELAX despite it.

That’s when you start allowing yourself to SEE your SHADOW self. The aspects of yourself that your psyche usually doesn’t allow into the conscious part of you. Your petty-mindedness, jealousy and condemnation. Your anger, your pride and your shame. All the FEARFUL parts of you.

Your shadow self stays HIDDEN from your consciousness as long as you are not open and ready to see and accept it. It stays hidden when you DISTRACT yourself from the DISCOMFORT and pain of seeing yourself AS YOU ARE. The GOOD, the BAD and the UGLY.

When you REFRAIN from DISTRACTING yourself through PROJECTING your fears onto someone else, you move past your own psychological defense. YOU ALLOW. Allow the INSIGHTS to come, allow the PAIN and discomfort to move through you. Let the energy of the SHOCK ripple through your body like waves.

BREATHE into it.

BE your breath.

Rest in the unknown “WHO AM I?”

For now, you don’t need to know. Keep OBSERVING.

EXPERIENCE, don’t turn away, don’t distract.

Allow your shadow. See it. Understand it. LOVE IT LIKE A FEARFUL CHILD.

When you shine LIGHT onto every part of you, your shadows will dissolve.


Part 2: The HOW-TO

Practice awareness & practice to stay with, ie not resist or distract yourself from, uncomfortable sensations in the body and uncomfortable emotions and thoughts.

Yoga asana and meditation are great practices for this purpose, but you can practice this in any situation where you find yourself in physical or emotional discomfort. Stay aware and notice how you react to the challenge you are facing. What thoughts arise? Emotions? How do you typically and automatically behave in the situation? What do you feel in your body? Do you feel tense? Numb? Something else?

Everyone can do this, but it usually takes practice. For me: a lot of practice.

“Do your practice, and all is coming”! (as expressed by Patthabi Jois, father of ashtanga vinyasa yoga)



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